I was a little surprised recently when a close friend—and then a few days later a patient—asked me what I meant when I said they seemed to be suffering from the stressors of being in the sandwich generation. Not only am I very aware of my own experience of being in a sandwich generation situation,…
Men and boys are struggling. For all the talk of “toxic masculinity,” men and boys are losing ground and straining to find meaning in their lives. As the world has changed and women have increasingly found ways to advance, men and boys have lagged behind and have not adjusted well to the realities of an…
“Truly perfect is becoming friendly with your imperfections on the way to doing something remarkable”- Seth Godin Many of us strive for perfection in our lives. In fact, perfectionism is often seen as a comfort, like having the perfect job, perfect partner, perfect children, perfect house, or finding the perfect vacation spot. So, being a…
Mindfulness. We hear this term bandied about a lot. But what does it really mean, and how does it help us? There are many definitions of mindfulness, from being in the moment to focusing on the what is and not the what if. We will explore this term and ways to become mindful. A…
Almost everywhere you look these days, there are reminders of times gone by. Streaming services regularly release reboots of long-ago stories, such as NBC’s Quantum Leap and Netflix’s Cobra Kai. Retailers are advertising scrunchies, tracksuits, and 90’s jeans. Songs like “Eye of the Tiger” and “Take On Me” are trending on TikTok. The Instagram account…
Certainly, the majority of adolescents and adults have heard the term ADHD and most have at least a basic understanding of the meaning of this acronym, which means Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Yet ADHD, which is a neurodevelopmental disorder, is often mischaracterized as a simple problem with one’s ability to pay attention or stay in one’s…
For those of you who may not know me, I am a psychologist whose work specializes in the treatment of sexual and relationship difficulties. Much of my work as a sex and relationship therapist involves working with both couples and individuals. In the last 35+ years of psychotherapy, I have frequently encountered couples presenting for…
Do the following statements sound familiar? I’m afraid people important to me may find out that I’m not as capable as they think I am. I feel my success has been due to some kind of luck. I often compare my ability to those around me and think they may be more intelligent than I…
There is no shortage of what to occupy our minds with these days. While this feels like it’s never been worse, as long as our brains have had their current structure, which is estimated to be only 200 million years old,[1] “it’s the same as it ever was,”[2] or as noted in the book of…
Pickleball is one of the fastest-growing sports in America. Chances are, pickleball courts are popping up all over your town, most likely replacing a few tennis courts. Ever wonder why this sport has grown so quickly in popularity? To start, pickleball can be played by people of all ages and all skill levels. You don’t…