When you think of your future, do you look to the sky? When you hear an airplane engine, do you look skyward to spot that airplane and follow it as it flies overhead, imagining yourself as the pilot in command? For many, the dream of flying becomes a reality and quickly becomes a part of who…
DetailsWhen I’m not in my office working with individuals and couples helping them to improve their relationships, I can usually be found on the golf course. Not that I’m a particularly good golfer, mind you, but I do love the game and the myriad challenges it presents. Indeed, I often think of golf as an…
Details“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche For much of our country’s history, we held a myth of honesty. From George Washington, who supposedly said, “I cannot tell a lie,” when asked if chopped down the family cherry tree to Abraham…
DetailsWhen the Netflix series “13 Reasons Why” was released more than a year ago, it sparked significant controversy from the public, as well as mental health professionals. In case you missed it, the show tells the graphic story of a fictional high school girl who dies by suicide and leaves behind a box of audio…
DetailsEvery day people around us are struck with a sudden or gradual loss of ability. Sometimes they are young, often they are older. The losses arise from various issues, such as cardiac conditions, Alzheimer’s, cancer, diabetes, Parkinson’s, brain injuries, stroke, injuries leading to chronic pain, aging and the list goes on. You undoubtedly know, love…
DetailsAs a relationship and couples therapist, I see the same story all too often. The pressures of everyday life leave no time to nurture the relationship, and as a result, sex becomes less frequent, if not non-existent. Couples come in wanting their sex lives to resume some regularity, but it’s not always as simple as…
DetailsAfter practicing psychology for more than 20 years with children, adolescents and adults, I’ve been treating symptoms of anxiety and depression with traditional psychotherapy and when severe enough, have recommended a referral to a psychiatrist for medication options. It was only by personal experience and therapy patient contact that I stumbled upon the connection between…
DetailsMany people I know are talking about the steep rise in impatience that characterizes our culture today. Due, in part, to advances in technology, life has become accelerated, and we demand speed. We choose computers that promise the fastest processors and we order goods from companies who promise the fastest delivery times. Why watch a television show that…
DetailsAt first glance, “Eye Movement” Therapy, formally known as Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), may seem strange and even “hokey.” Actually, EMDR is recognized as a best practice for the treatment of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) by the U.S. Departments of Veterans Affairs and Defense, the World Health Organization, the International Society for Traumatic Stress…
DetailsPeople often assume that problems in love relationships occur because of difficulties in verbal communication. The way we communicate certainly plays a role, but before I delve into a few specific tips on improving communication, I want to address a deeper issue – that of connection. When people feel connected, they seem to experience their…
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